New Year’s Resolutions for Caregivers

I never was fond of making New Year’s Resolutions. The few times I did, my goals were too broad and undefined, and I ended up ignoring them. I made the typical goals like “I’m going to lose weight”, or “I’m going to spend less money”. They were destined to fail because they were not specific enough and had no measurable outcome. When I was a caregiver however, I never considered a resolution that would lighten my responsibilities or provide support when I needed it.

 

There is plenty of information out there both for and against setting New Year’s Resolutions. The Cambridge English Dictionary defines “New Year’s Resolution” as: “a promise that you make to yourself to start doing something good or stop doing something bad on the first day of the year”.  

 

As caregivers, we are sometimes so busy getting through the day that we don’t stop long enough to make changes that can make our lives better.  According to Psychology Today, “the vast majority of resolutions are positive, life changing goals”.  So YES, you should set a New Year’s Resolution!

 

However, instead of making resolutions that require more work on your part, consider making a list of resolutions that others can adopt to help you in the coming year. Below is a list I came up with, use it as a starting point.  Adapt this list to meet the needs you have now. Consider posting your list to your friends on Facebook, hang it in your house or even make copies and give it to friends and family.  You might be surprised at the support you end up getting.Caregiving Resolutions

 

How about you?  Are there New Year’s resolutions you are making?  How do you wish friends and family would offer help?
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2 thoughts on “New Year’s Resolutions for Caregivers”

  1. We just had another family meeting. My sister Sue , who pressed to have mom come and live with her almost 2 years ago, shared that she is really stressed with the responsibility , in retrospect bit off more than she can chew, and asked if her siblings would be able to take full responsibility for mom, on a weekend, once every month or two. She said she appreciated the help she is currently getting from us but as mom needs more monitoring and cant be left alone, the situation has changed. She requested it be for the full weekend, at the siblings house or hers and be scheduled in advance on the calendar so she could plan for her break.We agreed… She pulled out a sign up sheet. We all had been witness to her mounting stress in recent months and appreciated he candor in asking for more help.

    1. Pat, thank you for sharing this! Did all of your siblings agree to be part of the weekend rotation? I know how Sue feels. Within a year of my Dad moving in I felt like I had bitten off more then I could chew. It had gotten to point where my husband and I could not do anything out of the house together, one of us always had to be home. Unfortunately, a family meeting was not an option because we lived so far away from family who could help. In hind sight,I wish I had enlisted the help of friends in my community.
      It is a really good idea to have written everything down, sounds like she was prepared. Keep us posted about how things go.
      Kim & Dawne

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